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Sunday, 14 August 2016

Big boy bed: Moving from a cot into a bed at 12 months old

Big boy bed: The transition. Moving from a cot into a bed at 12 months old

There's no doubt about it, this kid is a climber.


He's also a dedicated cot-hater; since the very first time he was placed lovingly into his cosy bed he has routinely announced his displeasure and, by the time he reached a year old, he'd throw a full blown tantrum whenever we approached it. With two naps a day that's a lot of screaming.

I have no idea why this is. The big one was always happy to go into the very same cot; if she wasn't sleepy (or thought she wasn't) she might grumble a bit but would then play with her toys until she fell asleep in an amusing position.

Perhaps he was a prisoner in a former life and being behind bars gives him flashbacks? I suspect I will never know.

The only reason we moved the big one from her cot into her awesome Big Girl Bed was due to the arrival of the small one. She was around 20 months old when she moved into the bottom bunk of a brand new and pretty awesome bed. Bless her, she's always been a talker rather than an explorer and I'm not sure she even realised she could get out for a few months. It was actually that easy. Smuggo alert.
It was almost exactly a year to the day (thanks for the memories, Facebook) before the small one decided to make good his escape from the cot one final time and was found hanging over the edge of the cot by his chin turning an interesting shade of puce. Something had to change and short of putting a lid on the cot, hence fashioning a baby cage (which may have been briefly considered) there weren't a lot of options left.

It was time to move to the Big Boy Bed.
Surely it's too soon? I thought. He's not even thirteen months old. He'll end up sleeping on the floor, amidst the entire contents of all the drawers and cupboards IF he sleeps at all. It would also mean a promotion to top bunk for the big one; a scary prospect for all of us.

I googled it, as you never should, but always do anyway. All the guidelines say that between 2 and 3.5 years is a good time to make the cot-to-bed transition. Another two and a half years? Not going to happen. He hated the bloody thing and I could tell he was only going to get more committed to his dangerous escape plan.

On balance, with the alternative being a seriously hurt little boy, we had to take the plunge and, not being one to hang about, when my husband arrived home just before bedtime the bunkbeds had been made and he was instructed to drag the cot out of the room and bring the cage, last seen being dismantled into the garage, back in so we could sufficiently toddler-proof the room.
We were doing this. It was happening.
How's it gone so far?

I know you're hoping that there is some hilarious tale of woe in this, and I suppose I probably thought there would be. But I am not disappointed at all to say that on the whole, the move to a big boy bed has actually been nothing short of miraculous.
Conspiring
We did have one night where he woke up at 11pm and didn't g
all one did the same. No one got much sleep that night... however I don't think we can blame the bed; the first was probably caused by jabs and the second by a bug or possibly daddy's cooking.

He's decided he doesn't want to stay in bed a few times. Sometimes they conspire over the stairgate. He's even learned to open the sodding bedroom door which is quite frankly amazing and terrifying in equal measures.

But on the whole, with the natural exceptions of when he's teething/ill/being a huge pain in the arse for unspecified reasons, he's actually going to bed more willingly, sleeping better, and for longer, in his own bed. The kid that screamed when approaching the cot has decided he doesn't mind sleep too much, sometimes - and it appears he can actually be sung to sleep! Mary Motherflipping Poppins me.

Screw you, guidelines.
He may well end up on the mattress but at least he tries...
PS I reserve the right to moan when this all goes tits up.

We bought this bed from Kids Funtime Beds and I wrote to them to tell them how much I loved it and that I was going to feature it in my blog - and they kindly said they'd be happy to offer a £20 discount to readers of the blog.

So if you want one of these brilliant beds please visit their site and use the code WhingeWhingeWine20. 

This isn't a sponsored post, and all views are my own, I just love the bed!

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38 comments:

  1. Hopefully this will be me soon. When I finally move house, I am going to try and get Piglet into his own room and own bed. At the moment we're co sleeping so could be an interesting transition! #tribe

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    1. Imagine the sleep you can have in a piglet-less bed!

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  2. I really want to get R a cabin bed, but I know he will plummet out of it almost immediately so I'd better not. He just wriggles so much. I found him on the floor the other night as it was! Xx

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    1. See I can trust big one up there... small one... Not so sure!

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  3. Oh that looks like a fab cabin bed! I needed to see this a couple of months ago as I have just ordered bunk beds for the girls! #KCACOLS

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    1. I'm not sure they deliver across the water. Shame because they are awesome.

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  4. I am so glad I came across this post! My youngest is almost 19 months and has NEVER slept in his cot. Yep - he sleeps with me and my partner has been relegated to the spare room for 18 months... So, we are taking the sides down from his cot this holiday in the hope that he might at least spend a couple of hours in there. My eldest never slept well in the cot either - preferring to sleep with mummy and daddy. Bloody thing - never should have bought it! Your bed does look awesome. I hope you all get some peaceful nights sleep. #kcacols

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    1. Oooh well you never know. Maybr the end is in sight...

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  5. Clem has hated her cot right from the start. She wasn't even that keen on a moses basket, she's always preferred to sleep in with us. However I need sleep so recently we made her a floor bed and it's amazing. She loves it, and we don't have the huge fuss we used to. She doesn't seem to like being off the ground, weird but whatever works! #kcacols

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  6. Oh dear! Hope he will soon get the hint, lol. My son had the same problem when he was that age, he doesn't like to go to the cot, kept jumping to our bed in the middle of the night. He's 6 now and happily sleeping in his own bed. It will work eventually. #KCACOLS

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  7. They're like bliddy ninjas aren't they? Luckily Violet never once tried to escape her cot and took to her bed from the very first night, but now she knows how to open the baby gate on her room it's scary sh*t waking up during the night to her standing at the bottom of the bed staring at you! And I love the bed! MotherHermitxx #KCACOLS

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  8. The bed looks fun and it's good to hear the little one is taking the move rather well. A doesn't mind her cot and it converts to a bed for when she's older, but I want to get her a fun, comfy bed in the future. Hopefully she'll be fine with it.

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  9. We took the side off his cot bed at 13 months and he was so much happier after that!! Great idea to do that, Fran! #KCACOLS

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  10. I just bought a toddler bedoes last night after weeks of my little bear declaring his hatred of his crib. He's been happily sleeping on the matress on the floor. We will see how it goes. Thanks for sharing! Good luck to us both #KCACOLS

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  11. This is a GOOD BED. NC is nearly one and he is also a climber. He thinks it's hilarious to hang like a monkey with his feet halfway up the bars. I love this bed - because I think it will work. NG was 14 months when she got into a 'big girl' bed and I see nothing wrong with it. Good work. #chucklemums

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  12. I'm sure the big girl went into a bed before she was 2 and I can't quite remember why I thought that was a good idea.she loved it though and despite a few nights where I'd struggle to open the door because she'd got out of bed and was asleep behind the door she soon loves her bed! #chucklemums

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  13. I'm sure the big girl went into a bed before she was 2 and I can't quite remember why I thought that was a good idea.she loved it though and despite a few nights where I'd struggle to open the door because she'd got out of bed and was asleep behind the door she soon loves her bed! #chucklemums

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  14. Woo Hoo!!! So pleased it's gone well for you!
    (Well, on the whole...)
    My first and 3rd HATED their cots too. Both in a bed by 18 months and same as you, Marry Poppins moment.
    Short lived joy though as just after we moved them, they both took joy in removing shite filled nappies and playing with the contents at their bedroom doors.
    So disgusting...
    Fab bed too - I love it!!
    #chucklemums

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  15. Just popping back. I want this bed for my two crazy ninjas! #chucklemums

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  16. Yay glad its going well. I am debating when to get the youngest into a big bed, he's just started to try and climb out. The middle boy was 16 months when he went into a big bed only because he too was a climber - that was fun! LOVE that bed - was going to ask where you got it as think it would be perfect for the lads xx wishing you continued success with the beds xx #chucklemums

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  17. Wow! What a bed, the options now are amazing. Sweet dreams :) #KCACOLS

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  18. This bed is so lovely. Tempted to get it for me and the Husband.Glad the move hasn't been too horrific. #chucklemums

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  19. Firstly, that bed is awesome and I want one for myself.
    Secondly, I fear this might be the road I need to head down. For the past 6 weeks my 2yo has decided he hates his cot, even though he's been in it forever and I've taken one side off. I'll be checking out kids funtime beds for sure. #chucklemums

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  20. Bloody hell - what a minefield! Love the night vision cam shot...very Super Nanny of you! #jofrost #chucklemums

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  21. Oh I love the bed...I want stairs up to my bed, that is amazing! Uh oh a climber...sounds like you did the best thing. Hope it stays calm. And at least your's are in a bed...my son transitioned from a cot to a mattress on the floor. He seems happy, I might buy him a bed one day #chucklemums

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  22. Ha ha some of those photo's are amazing! I love the conspiring over the stair gate! We put our 'big one' in his big boy bed...aka took the side off the cot bed at 10 months....yes I know very early, but he also HATEd his cot with a PASSION! He'd scream blue bloody murder every time you tried to put him in it and considering he's wasn't the best sleeper anyway this was a lot! He did end up on the floor a few times....we did put a soft landing down but he was a lot lot happier so it worked for us...he didn't particularly sleep much better though!
    The 'little one' is turning 1 soon and has recently discovered he can scale his cot...I think I may need one of those beds!
    Laura @ 2 Travelling Tots x
    #chucklemums

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  23. Bless him, he sounds like a right happy sleeper now (barring the few blips!). Love the way his sister is in cahoots! although if he's of a mind to get up the mini stairs he probably will. Gotta love a tenacious toddler.#chucklemums

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  24. That bed is gorgeous! It's pretty impressive that you've managed to get him to sleep in it, what a good boy!

    #Chucklemums

    (It's done a ridiculous Google ID again but it's Jenny from accidentalhipstermum.com) x

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  25. One of my mates is a real "we've got that random bit of furniture, let's make it work rather than buy new." And so it came to pass that they transitioned their 5 month old baby into a DOUBLE BED to herself. Lucky shit. Danger moves though....#chucklemums

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  26. Daisy is getting too that stage. Scream when the cot is near.. I fear for her life if she goes to a bed :) She is a sneaky one and will probably get into some kind of "fun" in the middle of the night! #chucklemums

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  27. I seriously need to move FC#2 into a big boy bed. He is still in his cot...not a cot bed, a cot. He is nearly 2 and a half, and he is a big boy. He is a bit squashed in his cot... He's not a bad sleeper, though, so I'm nervous about changing the status quo!
    #chucklemums

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  28. I didn't follow what was recommended when my kids were little. Just had to go by whether I felt the kids were ready or not. I still giggle at the idea of the kids conspiring at night. Mine used to talk and chat as well. #chucklemums

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  29. Sounds like a parenting win! Fingers crossed it doesn't go tits up..
    Love the beds! No wonder he's more keen for bedtime - they are so cool.
    #chucklemums

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  30. Rules are made to be broken; survival is the goal. Looks like it's rolling nicely. Sleep is golden; whatever it takes. #chucklemums

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  31. I love that bed too! I really hope that your smugness doesn't turn around and bite you in the bum...ha, it won't. I moved one or two of mine into beds really early - can't remember the deets because I'm old and have lots of children, but I know it worked fine. Now they all want double beds...it's another stage. Alison x #chucklemums

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  32. Ooooh I have been toying with moving the big girl - just two - into a bed but well I quite like that she can't get out of the cot so is staying put for the time being. Anywho glad it went well and what a really cool bed, no wonder he liked it. #KCACOLS

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  33. Our eldest went into a bed at 2 - like yours, it took her quite a while to work out no one was actually stopping her getting out. She tends to follow rules & is also more of a talker. My little one I think will be a nightmare with wandering around - she has just turned 2 but not moving her yet unless she starts climbing the cot. #chucklemums

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