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Sunday, 12 June 2016

That blogger tag post

The blogger tag post

What's all this about then?


The lovely Fi from Beauty Baby and Me nominated me to do a 'Mummy Tag' post. Basically it involves answering a bunch of questions about yourself in the self-indulgent way which I, and bloggers everywhere, excel at. It's taken me a while to get to it but the kids are in bed and I have a glass of wine...So here we go!

1. Are you a stay at home mum or a working mum? 

Technically I am a working mum. I've just reached the end of maternity leave round two and am on that holiday portion. I will be returning, but my employer is not willing to offer part time hours and therefore I'll be leaving shortly afterwards for the life of a stay at home mum. You can read more about that here and here.

2. Would you have it any other way? 

Let's be diplomatic and say I didn't have the choice. I would have liked to return but only on a part time (2 or 3 day) basis. But given the choice of working full time on crap sleep (and just about breaking even whilst paying for two in nursery) and staying at home with them, the latter is definitely my preferred option.

3. Do you co-sleep? 

I did, because I believe strongly in whatever you have to do to get you through. They both sleep in their own beds 95% of the time now so it didn't build any bad habits or build any metaphorical rods, because that's all complete balls.

4. What is your one must have item for your baby.

WINE. But that's for me. For the baby... A sling. I owe my sanity to my slings.

5. How many kids do you plan on having? 

I have two and I am done. I love them dearly but I never want to do the newborn stage ever again. I don't like newborns. Being around other peoples' small children does not make me broody, it makes me feel panic.

6. Date night? How often do you have them? 

Er, never. We went to see the new Star Wars and that's the only time we've been out together and alone since the baby was born. We are sadly very short of willing and able babysitters for evening duties.

7. Your child’s favourite show 

The big one is a big fan of That Pig, although she has recently expanded into Disney Princesses.
8. Name one thing you bought before you had baby and never ended up using? 

There are a few outfits that we were given which never got worn. I didn't rate the bumbo we were lent and we didn't even bother with a Moses basket the second time round (again, lent) as our first never slept in it. I don't think there is anything I regret buying though as we didn't actually buy a lot!

9. Your child’s favourite food. 

Probably chips and baked beans. Ice cream. All the bad stuff. Anyone who genuinely thinks their child is going to grow up to love broccoli is wrong, although both kids do love fruit.
10. How many cars does your family own? 

Just one now. We briefly had one each (me and my husband, not the kids).

11. Weight gain before pregnancy, during, after and now.

Some. None of your business. I lost a bit, and have put a little back on. I tried Slimming World but it wasn't really for me - I stuck to it rigidly for a month and lost about 2lb! I've done Weight Watchers successfully a few times though and will probably go back to that when I can be bothered. It's not something I get overly stressed about.

12. Dream holiday with your kids ?

Er... I can't even begin to think about it yet after the last one. I think we will probably stick to staycations for the near future!

13. Dream holiday without your kids? 

A Travelodge on a motorway would be fine by me as long as no one woke me up at 6am. It would be lovely to go somewhere exotic, with white beaches and fancy cocktails.

14. How has your life changed since having kids? 

I'm far more tired. I look about a hundred years older and my hair is even worse than it was.

15. Finish the sentence “It makes my heart melt when………” 

My kids play nicely with each other, particularly when the big one gives the little one cuddles unprompted. She is far more likely to ask me to 'take him away now mummy' but I know she loves him really, deep down. As for him, he thinks his sister is amazing. Poor kid.
16. Where do you shop for your kids? 

For toys, we usually buy online. Clothes-wise I am fortunate to have been the recipient of a lovely bunch of handmedowns so I don't generally need to buy a lot, but if I see something I like I'll buy it. I don't tend to go shopping a lot (or ever) because I'm not a masochist so if I get something it's usually from one of the supermarkets, which I love because they're so cheap.

17. Favourite makeup and skincare products? 

I'm not really that big on either. I do wear make-up but I don't do it properly, I've never attempted contouring in my life, in fact I've only just learned what that means. It looks like an art form far exceeding my skills of expertise. I'm a bit of a failure as far as being a 'yummy mummy' goes.

18. Huggies or Pampers?

You can't buy Huggies in the UK so Pampers it is. Prefer cheapies for day time though.

19. Have you always wanted kids?  

I don't remember. Probably not when I was younger, but I think deep down I always assumed I would. Too late to change my mind now I suspect.

20. Best part of being a mum?

The laughs. And there are plenty of them.
So there you have it.
I finally did it.

This is the part where I am supposed to tag five mums, but it has taken me SO LONG to get around to this that I haven't got anyone left to tag! Please, if you haven't already done it - have a go and let me know (maybe leave a link in the comments) so I can have a nose.

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39 comments:

  1. Thanks for sharing! It's always nice to get to know everyone a little bit better. I'm sorry your employer wouldn't let you have part time hours. I'll admit when I worked part time it was probably my happiest. For me the best of both worlds. But now I'm full time. I love your comment about the wine. I also want to try one of those slings. I was too cheap to by one when mine was a baby so I'm hoping to try it whenever we have a 2nd.
    Enjoyed it! #TribalLove

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    1. Oh you should - definitely a life saver with two!

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  2. My employer wouldn't offer me part-time hours either. Well, not really - I'm starting back in a week on 4.5 hours. I only have one child, though - I definitely couldn't have afforded childcare for two. My husband and I don't get out much either - we've been out on three kind-of dates in the past year, all during the daytime. I figure we'll go out in the evening eventually. Until then, TV and takeaway it is. #triballove

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  3. Haha you do make me laugh!

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    1. Aww I love your doodle of co-sleeping, stupidly accurate! Great answers :-) #chucklemums

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  4. I usually find reading these kind of things pretty dull, but your answers are really funny. I am still waiting to read an answer to the Huggies or Pampers question along the lines of, "I am not ashamed to say I use Lidl nappies day and night." Am I a bad mother?! #Chucklemumsl

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    1. I am totally a cheapie fan in the day but I do like the baby dry ones at night and nothing quite comes close. They do a LOT of wee.

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  5. I love this challenge. I actually linked it this week. Good lcuk when you get back to work. #chucklemums

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    1. Yes I read yours! They're good for getting to know people I suppose :) Thank you

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  6. Loved this. My employer wouldn't give me part time hours when we discussed me going back so I quit. I'm so glad I did as I'm really lucky with the job I have now. I guess everything happens for a reason...#chucklemums

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    1. Yes, and I'm lucky that I have the choice to spend time at home while they're young. Even if they drive me nuts.

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  7. My employer wouldn't let me go part-time either so I had to return back to work full-time to pay off my mat leave and then we buggered off to Jersey whilst flicking the metaphorical Vs. Wouldn't have it any other way now.....well sometimes I would. Let me come back to you at the end of the week! #chucklemums

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    1. Haha thank you. I've actually done a whole post about it which I will get around to finishing at some point... Please don't put me off!

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  8. I am so completely with you on the newborn thing...I really don't understand how it makes people broody. Panic, fear, relief that you're not there at the moment? yes. A burning desire for another baby? NO. I've really enjoyed reading these tags...always good to have a nosey! #chucklemums Lucy at occupation: (m)other

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    1. I don't think I am further away from wanting another baby! Glad I'm not the only one.

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  9. lol - I love reading your writing.. g'teed to make me laugh ;) #chucklemums

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  10. Another not broody mummy right here; newborns are just beyond me...we all survived...just! And as a for a holiday any bloody where I'm not woken at the crack of dawn; I'm all over it. #chucklemums

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    1. This one will be a year in a few weeks and I'm still *just surviving*!

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  11. I shouldn't say itbut I can't wait for my toddler to be out of the tantrum phase. They still have them as they get older but these baby/toddler years are super tough!!!! I am in the same boat as you Fran, home with the kids as it made no viable sense to go back with the costs of childcare. I also think, they grow so fast and the years fly by, I must make the most of it...whilst trying to stay sane with the help of Gin and Wine! #chucklemums
    PS: Thanks so much again for my pants award!!! I was shocked and over the moon in equal measure.x

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    1. It's a big secret no one tells you isn't it. Yes some people 'have it all' but the majority don't. Alas. Thanks Gem, and well deserved, your posts always make me laugh.

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  12. I couldn't not read this, as I am a nosy cow and I find these kinds of posts strangely compelling...
    Thanks for hosting #chucklemums

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  13. Nice to 'know' you. Sorry to hear about the working thing - when will employers learn that working mothers on reduced hours are super loyal and committed and happy employees = better outcomes?! Anyway. Love the fact that your dream hols is in a Travelodge as long as it's peaceful. Hilarious x #chucklemums

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    1. Oh I don't know. I've been there seven years so you'd think they'd be a bit flexible but hey. I daresay aside from the money life will be a bit easier without work to manage...

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  14. Skincare products: I buy Weleda baby moisturiser on the basis that if its ok for a baby's skin its ok for mine and a hell of a lot cheaper than anything else :)

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    1. I tend to buy things on the basis that they are buy one get one free. No wonder I look a fright.

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  15. I like these kind of posts too - you get to know the blogger a bit! I totally hear you on the working thing - I've luckily been allowed to go part time, but there was no way I could have coped with full time. It's a tough one, and I really think more employers should work with parents. #chucklemums

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    1. I think it's basically down to luck. Still, can't say I'm very sad to be leaving...

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  16. There is something about these posts that brings out the right nosey parker in me! Your comment about a Travelodge on a motorway made me snigger/think -wouldn't that be bliss!! I agree about the laughs, there's plenty of the those! #chucklemums

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    1. I could do a travelodge right now, I swear I'd just sleep the whole time

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  17. Ugh the whole part-time/ flexible work thing is a nightmare. I've had two jobs since returning from mat leave and both have let me do four days but offer no support so doing full-time work in fewer hours for less pay. Hoping to make a change soon. Also loved your answer to 11. #chucklemums

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    1. That's even worse isn't it, part time hours, full time work. No ta!

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  18. love these posts because i'm just nosey! I'm lucky that by working in retail I can choose to go part time when I want. well every little helps doesn't it! xx

    #triballove

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    1. That sounds like a definite tick in the 'pro' column ;)

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  19. ooh I like this, I'm so nosy, I love hearing about other people's lives. And actually our lives appear strangely similar! Our kids look similar ages and I have girl first, boy 2nd too! Shame about work, especially if it was something you enjoyed and perhaps had colleagues you like? So many in the same position. #chucklemums

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    1. Thanks Michelle! Must be the winning combination that drives you to blogging perhaps; there are quite a few of us out there with a similar age gap. Yes I enjoyed it but there are new and exciting things to do I'm sure :D

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